We are discussing here Losing a lifetime partner is difficult for anyone, and it took me five months before I could even begin to put the paper on the pen.
David and I met in 1973 while we were both working for an automotive organization. He joined at the age of 16 and our two fathers also worked for the company – so it was a family business. We started dating on October 11, 1973, and after three days, he asked me to marry him. I was 20 and he was 21. A month later, we got engaged and married in August 1974 in 1974.
I never dreamed of losing him at 59 …
I can honestly say, while we were young by today’s standards, none of us regretted a day in our life. Yes, we would have changed some things, but we learned from each of them. We talked every day, even when we were in different countries. There are so many stories of restoration and other fun incidents and it touched the lives of many people.
Our four children were our joy and we did so much together. He taught them honor and courage and passed on his love of life and humor. David had an incredible sense of justice and honesty and a thirst for adventure. He met life head-on and taught me a lot about business and always face your fears. Ours was a life of love and laughter and we really loved each other and loved spending more time together than anyone I know. We worked together in four different jobs, as well as in our own businesses – sometimes there was a lively discussion, we never broke up.
Learning to Dance in the Rain
And then we had to face a huge battle when David entered the world of alcoholism. I can’t say when I was so proud of him. Our children were strong and the love we all share is indescribable.
Then came our great adventure. In 2002, for the first time in our lives, we were both unhappy with our work and, in short, we bought an abandoned farm in a relatively unknown part of Italy, restored it and turned it into a house of 8 rooms Hotel. David took on a lot of the work and I kept going back and forth between Italy and the UK to keep bringing in money while we were building the business. David did all the cooking and used his passion for food to earn high praise for his food, placing us eighth on TripAdvisor out of four hundred hotels in the area
Back at the Marche after the operation, we took advantage of each
The business has grown and prospered and allowed us to spend precious time together. We spent almost ten years in Italy – learning so much not only about Italy, but life, people, ourselves and business, meeting amazing people – many of whom have become lifelong friends. In 2008 we decided it was time to return to the UK and we put the house up for sale. David drew on his business experience to develop a business plan for our return to the UK – to create restaurants.
An operation in Milan gave us hope – the tumor was benign without requiring further intervention. He had always been a smoker, but he almost gave up except 1 a day instead of 30. Our eldest son, Simon, also lives in Italy and did so much to help – driving for ten hours on certain days to get David to his meetings. in Milan and return to the Marche.